How to Be Good at Dating

Three years ago, I was a 34-year-old who hadn't had sex in fifteen years. Since then I've failed miserably at dating, then turned into a total manwhore, and eventually found someone really special to commit to. In my previous piece "The Harem of an Autist", I shared the story of that journey. Some comments accused me of making it up, a bunch of others asked: "How?" This essay is the answer, the practical guide I wish someone had given me before I started. What This Is Why should you listen to me? Because I'm a fairly regular dude who attracts women without any easy-mode levers like money or being a turbo-chad. I'm just a weird nerd who (after fifteen years of celibacy) decided to make dating his autistic special interest and discovered that it's actually not that difficult. Before embarking on this experiment, I read a lot of dating content online and in books, and all the good advice can be boiled down to: self-improvement, self-respect, confidence, openness, honesty, and vulnerabi ... Read full article.