Is our whole model of leadership wrong?

What if leadership isn’t about the leader but what happens between the leader and the group? My husband and I stumbled into Imago therapy early in our marriage. We were both open to therapy because we knew enough to know what we didn’t know. He came from a divorce, and I came from witnessing parents who were married for 48 years but continually had the same arguments over and over again. We didn’t want to repeat those mistakes.